Hi everyone, let me share my experience. I remember my first heart break, he was my first boyfriend and I thought I was madly in love with him, emphasis on ‘thought’ because now that I’m older I’m 1000% sure I didn’t know what love was. We were in different universities and kept the relationship going through calls, in my little mind I was so sure he was going to be my husband, and he was all I’ll ever want! Can we all take a moment to laugh? Hahaha!!! Well, one day I called him and a girl picked up and warned me to stay away from her boyfriend, I was shocked, hurt beyond reason, like, I was shaking visibly, I honestly can’t remember if I cried because I was in shock.
It felt
like my world was ending, like breathe was taken from my lungs and I needed to
struggle to breathe, all my hopes and dreams and fantasies destroyed by the
voice of one annoying girl! Sighhh! If you’re going through this right now,
first of all I’m so sorry, nobody deserves for their heart to be toyed with,
secondly, trust me, you can do better, any boy or girl who treats you badly
isn’t worth a second thought. But before you start feeling better, do these
things
1. Talk about it, talk to someone,
someone trustworthy, someone who listens, pour out your heart until you feel
less heavy.
2. DO NOT wallow in self-pity, trust me
there are billions of people on this earth, don’t let one be too important.
3. DO NOT binge eat, pizza and ice cream
while wonderful, will only make you feel better temporarily.
4. And I beg you with all that is right
and just, DO NOT listen to sad love songs, while they sound nice, they’ll make
you cry, mess with your mind and lead you to make decisions you’ll regret.
5. DO NOT call your ex, they hurt you,
never lower your self-worth by calling them.
6. Give yourself enough time to heal,
don’t jump so fast to the next relationship.
7. Go out, with friends or by yourself,
have fun, make memories!
8. And most importantly, pray, see one
thing I didn’t know when I was younger was the power of prayers for a broken heart,
I used to think God does not concern Himself with such matters. This, of course
is not true, whatever concerns you concerns Him, go down on your knees and talk
to your Father, pray for Him to mend your heart and I promise you, He will.
Now, please do not let anyone take away your ability to
trust, because when that one guy/girl God has created for you comes, you don’t want
to lose them because of some insignificant ex. Just keep an open mind, pray and
trust God or stay single, that’s not bad either. Oh! I didn’t finish my story,
my ex ended up dropping out of school and fathering two children outside
wedlock with one of the girls he cheated on me with, sooooooooooo, I dodged
that bullet! Till next time…..xoxo..
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